What is omnipartial Leadership? How do people know that you respect them? How do they know if you're trustworthy? How do you make wise decisions in the face of conflict

Continued from: Thomas Killman and CwtE decision tree - What is the right scenario of each strategy.

infintie game examples

small group breakout to come up with questions

Point #1

What is conflict?

Nonviolent Communcation essentials All human beings share the same needs. All actions are attempts to meet needs. Feelings point to needs being met or unmet. Most conflicts arise from miscommunications about human needs.

All-Win Leadership

Demonstrating that how we hold this now, sets the stage for the future.

recognizing dissent as a gift

Trust

Affirming dignity

Omnipartiality - All win Thinking

Different forms and goals of conflict resolution

Power, Rights and interests

evaluative, facilitative & transformative

Conflict Assessment

Thomas-Killman

Win-Win Processes

Q&A

Point #2

The components of conflict

Three ingredients of conflict

Three elements of good decision making

How to Speak unarguably

Frameworks for Understanding Interdependence

Complexity

Integral

Polarity Management

Basic design for all conflict resolution & facilitation

Diamond design, conflict streams - circle process - Informed Deliberation in small groups (world cafe) - Convergent Faciliation

Practical Applications - Citizen Assemblies - Restorative Justice - Collaborative Negotiation - Vision Design - Dispute resolution centers

Point #2

Point #3

Why is Conflict So hard? and so important?

Listening - breaking the conflict cycle - Helping others communicate their needs

Deciding when to collaborate

Conflict Assessment

Thomas Killman

Collaborating with Enemy decision tree

How to intervene - BEN Model - Refelctive listenting - Dignity - Authenticity & humility

- tips & tricks (hosting, listening, convening, documenting, asking great questions)

Where to get started and Learn more

Model to teach

iceberg,

OFNR and ARC Conflict Cycle

Thomas Kilman and CwtE decision tree

BEN Model. conflict curve,

Kaner's Diamond

Stretch Collaboration So how do we actually work with people who we don't get along with? Stretch #1 Embrace the conflict & connection Stretch #2 Step into the game Stretch #3 Experiment to find a way forward

Point #3

first of the Three Rules of Conflict;

Point #3

Power - Rights - Interests

smaill group exercise 1

Exercise 1: Breakout pod introductions, contact info exchange and discussion about hopes for course. 2nd Session: Select case study by using the "five why's" to understand what's at the heart of the issue.

Share personal perspective: speak truth while creating space for others.

get feedback on conflict map OR Culture Translator statement OR get help finding the unifying question

Using the BEN model and reflective listening

talk about how this might fit into your personal context, and what kind of process would be best. OR craft invitation for facilitation process. AND Brign your questions for the next session

Summary

Takeaway check

Story

Melissa and Me.

Listening to disruptive co-worker Friend Speaking up with a friend at lunch

My evolving perspective on political issues

Festival intervention

Border conflict in Ecuador,

Upsell

Omni-Win Project Mailing list and content (join a community)? Office hours; Master course

Communicatton 101 course (the playbook)

Leading in complexity Master Class polarity Mangement webinar

personal leadership coaching

Master Class, Coaching

Assignment

self-reflection survey, meet with pod. , find someone to interview for the next assignment

Begin building conflict map interview people, research Make a steelmam desription of the others

prepare conflict map, and share it with someone who matters to get feedback OR Craft a Culture Translators statement OR tell your overall perspective with someone AND Bring something that you have a strong feeling about to use in small group during the next session

Conversations & Learning with people in conflict (practice steelmanning and reflective listening AND Recruit some peers for a practice facilitation

do a practice facilitation

Final Exam: Why Conflict Transformation, not resolution?

Quotation

We have thought of peace as passive and war as the active way of living. The opposite is true. War is not the most strenuous life. It is a kind of rest cure compared to the task of reconciling our differences ... From War to Peace is not from the strenuous to the easy existence; it is from the futile to the effective, from the stagnant to the active, from the destructive to the creative way of life ... The world will be regenerated by the people who rise above these passive ways and heroically seek, by whatever hardship, by whatever toil, the methods by which people can agree. -Mary Parker Follett

"If you're not part of the problem, you can't be part of the solution."

Morality arises from the realization that we will be in ongoing relationship with each other." -Jordan Peterson

There are at least two kinds of games: finite and infinite. A finite game is played for the purpose of winning, an infinite game for the purpose of continuing the play. Finite games are those instrumental activities - from sports to politics to wars - in which the participants obey rules, recognize boundaries and announce winners and losers. The infinite game - there is only one - includes any authentic interaction, from touching to culture, that changes rules, plays with boundaries and exists solely for the purpose of continuing the game.

Ken Pages

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basic 15-16, 22-24, 29-30, 31-32, 33, 34

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basic 26-28

basic 17-19

Resources

Iceberg graphic

List of universal human needs

conflict streams framework, kaners, faciliation handbook

collaborating with the enemy

Material to prepare

break out exersise description, pod structure and assignments, Virtual Doc for "What is Conflict?" Exercise

Virtual Doc for "Needs/Interests" Exercise - Playbook Website & PDF - effective communication handout

Graphic for:

Polarity Management

Wicked Problems & Complex Systems

Developmental Politics

Diamond Conflict Streams Framework

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