Ken Cloke Resources - Module 1

COMMON SOURCES OF CONFLICT


• Unreal or unmet expectations
• Incomplete grieving
• Lack of honesty
• Demonizing stories and stereotypes
• Addiction to negative intimacy
• Comparisons with others
• Inability to feel empathy
• Loss of vision, goals or purpose
• Divided leadership
• Adherence to a single truth
• Unacknowledged pain or fear
• Wounded self-esteem
• Boundary violations or confusions
• Incomplete or unskillful communication
• Hidden agendas and unresolved family conflicts
• Hierarchical or undemocratic decision making
• Lack of clarity about roles and responsibilities
• Contradictory self-interests
• Competition for scarce resources • Fear or anxiety about change • Externalization of internal conflicts
SEVEN PARADOXES IN CONFLICT 1. Competition vs. Cooperation 2. Optimism vs. Realism 3. Avoidance vs. Engagement 4. Principle vs. Compromise 5. Emotions vs. Logic 6. Neutrality vs. Advocacy 7. Community vs. Autonomy [Bernard Mayer, The Conflict Paradox: Seven Dilemmas at the Core of Disputes, ABA/Jossey-Bass 2015.]
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