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How can we balance the awareness of a nation’s most problematic/dark parts and its most inspiring/bright parts?
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To what degree is it necessary to have awareness of the dark parts? Some nations are really used to this.
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It might be necessary to some degree but perhaps it’s unbalanced
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Some nations might have done this too much
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Other nations seem to have the opposite problem. There’s valuable knowledge in how nations like Germany have tampered down fliratation with facism.
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Question around what does redemption look like?
The left aren’t satisfied that this has been looked into enough.
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The right say we’ve looked into this enough already!
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You can hold the tension between two opinions until it comes to a point of ressolution (Parker Palmer)
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There can be a fascist resolution or democratic resolution where it breaks open to a deeper level.
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This is reminiscent of interview with Martina Handler about concentration camp. There where two sets of people - we talk too much about this / we dont talk enough.
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It broke open to new level where people felt safe enough to say more
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There was a subtext of judgement about what people did in the war
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It was a space free from judgement that enabled people to open up
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They wanted to create a Human Rights museum. When they created all the dcumentation was lost about how it happened - the whole process. The memory was lost of how it got there.
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How we frame the conversation can make a difference in where we get to in countries where there is polarisation
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One provocative participant was enabled to talk about daughter and lack of work and people could see him more as a human rather than immigrant and then this was compared to how Jews were treated. This opened up a sense of connection.This participant had planned to provoke and leave but didnt due to the opening/shift.
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Ongoing dialogue is needed (not just once) The process is the thing!
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When the past is addressed peace and reconciliation can be found.
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Aboriginal person commented on Germany very positively. “They learned their lesson” from problematic history. In their land they felt settlers hadn’t learned their lesson.
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It can be surprising (in Germany to some it feels like carrying a burden) but The process of reflecting on past has an effect - it is perceived in the world.
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The most valuable is the learning more than things like engineering etc.
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People admire how Germany has handled it
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Create spaces without judgement for conversations to happen
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People in the US get shut down
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Celebrating might be form of covering up
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What is the purpose of bringing out the light?
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What is the purpose (of reflecting on the dark part)
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Fetishizing blame and punishment (?)
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Naming and recognizing some of the resistance
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Swedish actor won award (Oscar) - not bragging is cultural norm - so he felt uncomfortable
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Celebrating while also not ‘covering up’ = balance
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Is there a cultural norm for not bragging in Germany
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Let Germany see how world sees it (?). Thank them for what they have done.
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Reflecting on injustice not enough - forgiving is necessary
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(Forgiving - you and I are OK - we are free of guilt)
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How can forgiving work on a public level? - How would a process of forgiveness work out on a public level.
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Public storytelling about ourselves
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Rituals in which we celebrate ourselves as a nation
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Celebrate that we have learned from our ‘dark parts’
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There is still a lot of guilt in our collective - it diminishes our energy
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Many world-known composers speak German
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Germans would never say ‘Make Germany great again’
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How to celebrate our culture in festivals and the like
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How can forgiving work on a public level? - How would a process of forgiveness work out on a public level.
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More literature, storytelling, speeches, light, sound, ... on the National Holiday - emphasizing our unity and greatness.
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In the US we - focussing on guilt and shame is counterproductive
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Be aware of our demons - and what we have learned from it.
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Talk not only about the bad the white people did - but also the good. Not make white people just feel bad.
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Talk about guilt on the individual and collective level.
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Have ‘social justice warriors’ become more informed about learning and psychology (take courses)
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Being ‘right’ does not make you effective.
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Humans in psychologically save groups are more (creative?); also shift in mindset - different opinions brought together
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Attitude change happens in small groups
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We need non-judgemental space - fully embrace light and dark - ‘digesting’ it
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A nation has many different groups of people
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White people take pride in sports/football team
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Don’t take away pride from (white) people
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Talk about: What does nationalism mean?
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Olympics was a good example
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In the UK a lot of unacknowledged harm done by colonialism
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Fully acknowledge the good and the bad - to ‘digest’ it
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The good and the bad are intertwined - Industrialization
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Taboo - not allowed to suffer
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Acknoweledge everyone that acknowledge the suffering of all parts of society. E.g Jews AND displaced Germans (to Russia etc - couldnt grieve publicly, suffering) 3.5 million young soldiers put into camps on left of Rhine - conditions under US surveillance. no builidngs tents many died after war. - not known )
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Acknowledge that all lives matter - this would be accepted much more if we acknowledge pain of other groups.
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Needs to celebrate the best and mourn the suffering of all groups
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People has lost their jobs in Us because people said all lives matter - seen as racist trope. Cultural Context
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All lives matter has been captured by right wing
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People trying to figure this out get caught in the crossfire it’s got so polarised.
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Yes Black lives Matter and sounded like all lives matter. And they got caught up and accused of racism.
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There are battling narratives and we get frozen in the trtauma. People in difference places in the spectrum
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Holding the tension to see where they are on the spectrum
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Dynamic Facilitation could be good to help seed anew middle discourse to honour the whole spectrum (like Voralgberg) To seed anew narrative
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Some could be resolved whilst other still in trauma, some more willing to talk and others cant. Soem Africa Am cant talk
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Model A parallel process, structure for the whole society to aspire to - Havel
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Pain and trauma is question of belonging - we’ve never had multi cultural democracy.
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Inspitre to do things that havent be done before
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Of coures all lives matter and histroically black lives havent matterd why we say BLM
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Jews lives didnt matter in WW2 and some white german lives didnt matter. They had mattered and stopped mattering. They are not the same.
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Suffering is equal and the story is not the same. Making them the same is where you get resistance.
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Different stories of sufering are storyies within a bigger culture called
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Empire culture creates different stories of suffering and its all suffering
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Appreciation of forgiveness - understanding suffering of perpertrators is part of undertanding how to stop this. Their voice in designing the solution is also important
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Help design the ceremenoy ritual for day of celebration for German culture - a whole week.
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No person or country defined by worst thing they did
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We know from research on prisons - a certain amount of incarceration can help think different but after leads to backlash and leads to deeper anger and likelihood to miss opportunity to transform
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competition of suffering may be part of the competitive personality of USA,
Also not useful to say all suffering is the same so let’s stop , — this is cognitive rather than touching the heart
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Battling narratives, how to steer awareness -
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Whataboutism — listening ot respond not listening to understand
The effect is polarizing,not contributing to connection.
Talking in headlines leads to separation
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Talk both about the suffering and talk on a different, deeper level where we meet not on “what has been done to us” but on the level of needs.
Or go up a level and instead of talking about the past, talk about something new, celebrate a new togetherness, what can be created as new.
overcoming so the way of talking about this in the past is no longer necessary because we have a new way.
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Being too identified w/ one’s own suffering, celebrating the suffering can create more separation too.
Can become part of your personality/ identity. It’s a dead end.
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Focus on how great that we survived the suffering. Indigenous cultures sometimes don’t seem to notice the resources they have.
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People are getting stuck in their suffering in Germany, especially Easterners. A small percentage are still in bitterness about the change that happened in 1989.
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Creating rituals that help poeple mourn their suffering and loss and accept their loss can help people move on.
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Only part of the people who lived in East Germany survived the change from 1989, some suffered from that change.
Rituals were absent for them.
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in this large scale ritual and conversation, everyone needs to feel acknowledged.
The design of this intervention could be prepared by a small group that represents the whole. This group prepares the field. Then wording, message can be found that improves, #alllivesmatter
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Yes, a small group can affect the whole in subtle ways. Vaccines and Homeopathics, example -
And, also important to have explicit external connections between the micro and macro. For example - Adam Kahane visioning exercise w/ people from 8 of the of the different political parties. Important to create real tangible linkages from the micro to macro.
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Everyone is struggling to feel heard — competition. Comes ffrom tension
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Whatever large scale intervention we design will be more acceptable if the small group representing the whole has prepared it.
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Research how Working w/ small group that represents the whole to do design this ritual. Can get into the “morphic field’ idea. To what extent does working a microcosm affect the macro?
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design a ritual based on story - Tich Nat Hahn retreat - more BIPOC folks than usual. POwerful longing to make the diversity more visible. Image of ritual came to mind: What if - Bell rings - All those who identify as ___, walk mindfully, silently up to be seen and acknowledged, celebrated. 103
So important that every sector, subgroup be given time, space and visibility AS something that enriches the whole.
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Hold more circles for deep dialogue