I think one of the best things we can do when we go through something is learn a lesson from the experience. No matter how much of a failure we think something is at the moment, if we can learn a valuable lesson from the experience, then we can turn that negative into a postive.
I think this is another trait highly successful people share. They don’t see their past failures as failures but merely stepping stones or opportunities for learning or growth.
It is often said that the definition of crazy is “doing the same thing and expecting a different result.” I think that could also be the definition of stupidity.
If you’re experiencing a failed relationship and this is not the first relationship that you’ve had that failed, now is the time to ask yourself some questions. Why did it fail? Was it them or was it me? It’s easy to say it’s always them. But even if it truly is always them then you need to ask yourself why you keep choosing that kind of person? Perhaps you are making the same bad choice repeatedly. Why? This is the time to dig into that why and learn something. Maybe there is something in your past you need to heal, recover from, etc Maybe you need to come up with a list of traits to look for or red flags to look for in the future? Spend some time reflecting on what went wrong and figuring out what changes you need to make to prevent the same thing from repeating in the future.
What if you were fired from your job. Same question. Why? Were you not suited for the job? Should you perhaps find a different career? Maybe you just need to work on some skills. Maybe you weren’t performing up to the company’s standards. Were their standards too high or were you just not motivated to meet them because you had no passion for your job. Take this time to explore what you really want to do with your life. Finding the right job or the right career can make a huge difference in the quality of your life.
And if you cannot come up with one single thing to reflect upon here you can always fall back on the lesson that you made a bad choice and you don’t want to make that same bad choice again in the future.