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Exercise: Discover your networth

Katerina Bohle Carbonell

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Step 1 - Existing Relationships

🚧 The first step is to write down the people with whom you interact. These can be your friends, family members, or colleagues. Just write down as many names as you can remember. Most people quickly come up with 3 to 5 names and struggle to have a list of 15 names. Aim to have eight names. The only information you need right now is their name.

In your first table, the heading of your first column will be ‘Name’. As said above, you can add more information. Best not to make it too complex at the beginning.

The column Activity and Total will be completed in step 3. It is a linked column.

Take it to the next level.

While the names of your connection are the only necessary information you should write down in this step, you can add more detail. For example, you can add a qualifier to the relationship (acquaintance, friend, true friend, family member, colleague), how you are (predominantly) interacting (online vs. offline). You could also add where you first met and if you have shared friends.

Often, when scientists use this type of exercise, they also note down how often people meet each other. The reasoning is that frequency of interaction is used to measure trust. Of course, it isn’t a perfect measure of trust, but it indicates how much effort you put into the friendship.

Existing Relationships

Existing  Relationships

Name

Activity

Total 2

Anton

Bert

Camilia

There are no rows in this table

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Step 2 - Hobbies, expertise, and activities

🚧 Now focus on yourself and make a list of activities you enjoy doing or topics you like chatting. You can also include information (advice, tips) you seek out often. For example, if you are a new parent, you could include ‘parenting’.

In your second table, create a list of the activities you are doing. Again, make it as complex as you want.

The column Existing Relationships and Total will be completed in Step 3.

Take it to the next level

For each activity or expertise field, you can add how important it is. An activity could be crucial for your family, well-being, and career success.

Activities

Activities

Activity

Existing Relationships

Total

Running

Reading

Rowing

Camping

Clowning

There are no rows in this table

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Step 3 - Combine your people and your activities

🚧 In step 3, you combine your first and second tables to get an overview with whom you are doing an activity or who can help you with something. For each person, indicate their expertise or if they do a specific activity.

In Coda, you can link your tables using the column property Lookup (Coda). Scroll back up to table 1 (People) and add the activities each person is involved in or their field of expertise. Table 2 (Activities) will be auto-filled.

Taking it to the next level

For each activity or expertise field you can add how important this activity is for the person or how good he/she is at it. You’ll have to modify the tables to only allow one entry in the lookup column or use a matrix format (see the

original article⁠

for an example)

Actions you can take when looking at the table People:

Use this table when you are picking a present for someone

Suggest a (new) activity for someone

Get someone to do something new.

Pick someone you haven’t seen for a while and invite them to do whatever they enjoy doing.

Actions you can take when looking at the table Activities:

For an activity you haven’t done for a while, reach out to linked people and ask if you can meet.

Pick an activity you are currently struggling with and ask for help

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