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3-Meet Progression Brainstorm

Overall Goals

Rapport
Trust
...(later) Influence

Method

First the man, then the saint: We meet the man where they’re at (in the concrete) and then lead them to the person of Christ (more abstract)
Integral formation: forming the whole man - how each sector of life affects the other
Confidentiality:

Meeting 1: Passions

Goals
Initiate relationship & rapport
Set a roadmap
Make it the mentee’s meeting (let them speak)
Discussion Points to Consider
Share Enthusiasm: the mentor shares their passion and enthusiasm for why they’re spending their time to do this.
Cast a Vision: need to keep the end in mind so that the mentees know where they’re heading, why it matters, and provide context for the relationship.
The ultimate goal: to become a disciple of Christ
Mentor’s goal: to assist the mentee in that journey and growth
Set out the Steps: be clear from the onset for what this journey looks like, what it’s about, and that we’re on it together.
Listen to the Mentee
Anything that’s critical/pertinent at the moment?
What does success look like for you? How do you define success for your life? Paint me a picture of a successful life.
Who do you want to be/become? (note: “Who does God want you to be” may be too much to start)
Suggested Questions:
What drives you?
What are you passionate about?
For those that know
Our goal is to help to shape/refine this
For those that don’t know
Share some of the tools on how to discover this
Identify passions and talents God has given you
The journey to identifying that vision and living it out
Guardrails: areas to promote/guide the discussion
We want to help you build the “whole man”
Foundation: Son of God
Where does it start?
How does it manifest in your life?
How do the “muscles” get grown to make that manifestation come into reality?
Areas that usually form that foundation (“Here are the areas that we tend to focus on - is there an area that you’d like to lean more into?”).
Tools to use:
1-pager with questions to consider
Define the 2 questions you want to be answered at a bare minimum
Exist criteria: What does “great” look like?
Mentees know where they’re headed
Mentees are motivated to get there
Mentor feels like they can help the mentee (or know where they need to go to provide that help)
Mentor & mentee want to keep going:
The mentor offers olive branch saying it’s okay if they want to keep going or try someone else out.
Propose calendaring the next meeting

Meeting 2: Problems

Goal:
Confirm understanding of what as covered in meeting 1 - i.e. recap the previous meeting
Understand the challenges getting in the way of the passions/goals outlined in meeting 1
Build trust by sharing a problem you’re working through
Discussion Points to Consider
Note: Much of this discussion will likely be based on what was discussed in meeting 1. This meeting can have much more latitude in what you discuss. While there are guidelines for this discussion, this second meeting will likely be less “rigid.” It’s less about “getting through the agenda” and more about meeting the mentee where they’re at.
Echo back what the mentee has said in the past and is currently saying to ensure both are on the same page - if the mentee speaks in the abstract, bring it into the practical. This also makes sure the mentee feels heard.
Provide categorization to help provide a structure/roadmap for the discussion: personal, professional, spiritual, etc.
Cautions
Exercise discretion and prudence: you want to be authentic but not cause a scandal that could lead to an erosion of trust.
Mentors should not share their personal present challenges (virtue vices, relationship issues with wife, etc.)
What a Successful Meeting Looks Like
The mentor and mentee have identified obstacles that the mentee might want to address during the mentorship.
A richer level of rapport has been cultivated
Increased clarity around what this particular mentor/mentee relationship will look like (vs. if it were another mentor in the mix).
Exit Criteria

Meeting 3: Plan

what does the mentorship look like practically speaking
Goal:
Preferred meeting methods

Agreement rails:
Mentorship meetings
Frequency: 1x per ##
Timeframe: 12 months
Apprenticeship opportunities
Family activities
Professional exposure
Social
Interaction Expectations
Communication
Who’s responsible for setting up?
When things need to be changed/rescheduled, they’re communicated in advance (ideally within 48 hours)
When are “off hours” for communication:

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