Special thanks to my good friend, , for his input and guidance in the development of this tool. Portions of the tool come from Bryan’s gold-medal winning time-management system that he first learned from his 6th grade teacher in a classroom exercise. His focus on balancing his time with what matters most in his life, led to his winning of the Silver and Gold Medals in the Olympic Decathlon.
Just because it’s a priority for someone else, doesn’t mean it’s your priority. 🤔
So, take it easy on yourself. 🥰
When I was first married, I loved mowing the lawn and taking care of my yard. But, then I had three amazing kids (at once, yes, triplets) and our life got busier, for the better. Something had to give and it was those 4 hours on my Saturday that I had previously reserved for my yard work. My time was better spent with my family, and as they got older, coaching sports, attending functions, and taking quality time with my kids and my wife. So, I’ve had a lawn service every since. I don’t regret a dollar I’ve paid that company. I can’t get back that time.
One the work front, I’ve learned what I’m giving up when I think, ‘I’m the only one that can do it.’ Those past regrets have fueled my commitment to be intentional about my time blocking. It’s funny, because I can barely remember why I felt that I needed to be the person who had to do ‘that thing’, but I do recall what I gave up. I recall missing that ‘first’ moments with our triplets while on a business trip that I had to attend versus having someone else go. I recall the stress I took on daily, even when not at work. You know that stress. It’s the stress that makes it tough to focus on what is in front of you right now. I still get a bit of a sinking feeling in my stomach just remembering it. But, now, the difference is that I know my priorities. I’m not perfect, but I am intentional and I revisit this exercise whenever my time gets out of whack. Because, it’s one of the most important things I must do to balance my personal and work success and happiness.
As my 96 year old grandpa, Eric Swire Bates, shared in his written memoirs before he passed,
“The greatest need is for you to love each other and God so that the joy of it will pass on to your children. This review of my life will illustrate the circumstances, which caused me to have to wait so long to discover the secret to a joyful life.”
And, as was said about my great grandfather (Eric’s father, W.H. Bates), in his obituary,
“But it was not for his achievements that he will be best remembered by his friends, but for his love of simplicity, for his willingness to help others and his generosity.”
Two generations before me. The ‘secrets’ to a joyful life had to do with showing and sharing love to one another, healthy relationships, and living life simply. To do that, you have to be intentional about where you spend your time and what you spend it on.