It pays to think of the artist’s date as one half “artist” and one half “date.” We are out to woo our own consciousness. We plan and execute enticing adventures. Our excursions may have a romantic overtone as we treat ourselves the way we wish a lover would treat us. ... I am often asked if artist’s dates must really be undertaken solo, and the answer to that is yes. (We are not alone. We are with our own creative consciousness.) This makes us catnip to others, but we must resist the temptation to take them with us no matter how they plead. Why this rigidity? Because when we are with a significant other, our consciousness is constantly monitoring their consciousness. We go to a movie and ask ourselves, “Are they enjoying this as much as I am?” Rather than focusing on our own inner world, we are focused outward. We are attending not to self but to other.